Say it Out Loud encourages people from LGBTIQ communities to start talking about our relationships

What is wonderful and unique about them?
How can we improve them? What behaviours won’t we,
as individuals and as a community, accept?

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You can’t ask that! LGBTQ intimate partner violence event

From 25 November to 10 December, ACON joins organisations, activities and communities across the world in marking 16 Days of Activism…

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When we talk about relationships on this site, we refer to all kinds of relationships in all of their various forms.

A relationship is a connection between people – be it life-partner’s, lovers, hook-ups, friends and family and a lot of the information on this site can be adaptable to every relationship.

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Red Flags Short Film

Red Flags is a short film that follows a gay and a lesbian couple as they fall in love and although both relationships seem beautiful at the start there are some warning signs that should not be ignored.

Abuse is abuse in any relationship, the warning signs are there.

LGBTIQ Domestic and Family Violence

Although data is limited, available evidence indicates that lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex and queer (LGBTIQ) people are just as likely as women in the general population (non-LGBTIQ) to experience domestic and family violence (DFV), that’s about 1 in 3 or 1 in 4 who have experienced it in a past or present relationship.

There is no dedicated Australian data relating to the experiences of DFV for transgender, intersex and gender diverse people. However, the limited inclusion of transgender people in the existing data suggests that rates may be anywhere between 60-80% of people who have experienced DFV. Data from Scotland on transgender people’s experience of DV indicates very high levels of abuse, with 80% of respondents reporting emotionally, sexually or physically abusive behaviour by a partner or ex-partner (LGBT Youth Scotland 2010).

Despite the prevalence of DFV for LGBTIQ people, our communities are less likely to find support services that meet our specific needs, we are less likely to identify the occurrence of DFV in our relationships and less likely to report it to the police or to seek support from services (Farrell & Cerise 2006; Pitts et al 2006).

The chances are that you, or someone you know, is or has been in an abusive relationship.

On this site we use the terms ‘violence’ and ‘abuse’ interchangeably.

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